Save the Date: Kiss and Tell

It’s obvious that there is a physical attraction and you're tired of holding hands and way over gazing at each other with those googly eyes. Now it’s time to discover if there's an even deeper connection. What better way to test it out than taking a chance with a little lip action? Some say a picture is worth a thousand words but can a smooch speak volumes on the future of your romance or have you kissing it all goodbye?

Matt:

Once you lock lips it's go time! Forget about before when you were nervous about saying the wrong thing on the first date. This first impression could be even more important -- it’s a test to see if sparks fly. In a way we expect magic, fireworks. We want to be speechless.

There is some science to all of this. There are a flurry of neural messages and chemicals going to the brain either saying continue playing tonsil hockey or “game over."

Kissing in a way is like dancing, you have to be in sync. One will always lead until you get into a rhythm. If not, it’s a total mess and you'll question right off the bat if this is the right person for you. And just like dancing, you have to have some moves for this mouth mambo if you ever want to advance your courtship to the horizontal hustle.

Hopefully you've had enough experience in this department, so I'm not going to explain technique or give you any of my secrets. However, I'll draw from a personal experience where I went on a couple of dates with this one girl who pretty much kissed with her teeth. I didn't know if she was making out with me or trying to eat me!

The first time is always awkward so I was giving her the benefit of the doubt, but that was just her thing and it wound up being the "kiss of death" of as far as us dating was concerned.

Steph:

No matter what anyone says there are no official written rules when it comes to puckering up. Nobody wants to be black listed as the world’s most horrible kisser, but let’s just say that a little smooch can reveal a lot!

Let’s start off with the “sloppy kisser." When you’re leaning in for that first encounter it is not okay to attack your mate like a dog going after a piece of meat. Drool and slobber are so not cute and it's absolutely horrible kissing etiquette.

Next, is the “I feel like I’m kissing my brother/sister" kiss. Locking lips should be fun! By no means should gagging be part of your initial reflux.

Beware of the “open-eyed kisser." These are the sneaky ones. If you’re caught up in the moment what do you need to be looking around for? To make sure you’re not messing up? I don’t think so! This means your partner must be lacking some confidence.

Finally, there’s always that ONE kiss that’ll have you feeling like the room is spinning and you’re on cloud nine. It’s these rare types of endearment that make you forget all about those frogs you smooched in order to find your perfect match.

Do you have a dating dilemma? Send Stephanie and Matt your story and questions. You may be featured on the next installment of "Save the Date."
 

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