The down side to falling in love is when we land -- not in someone's arms, but when we fall flat on our butts. The pain is felt all over. You never really get numb to your heart being ripped out of your chest and shattered into a million pieces.
It’s at times like these we wish someone would could kiss away the pain and make things all better. But when that person with the magic touch is no longer in the picture, we need a new remedy to clean up the scrapes and fix those boo-boos. There are certain necessities you should have in your dating repair kit so that next time around, you’re able to patch things up with a little more ease.
Don’t go calling the Emergency Medical Team (EMT) just yet! I promise you already have enough first-aid on-hand to get you back on your feet and on the road to a speedy recovery.
Suffering from a bit of a bruised ego? Take a dose of humble pie and get over it. We all have to take a few things on the chin when we put ourselves out there. That’s just the way love goes -- it comes with the territory.
When establishing an intimate connection with that special person who makes your heart beat a mile a minute, we open ourselves up to being vulnerable. Obviously you hope things will workout for the best, but as long as you’re true to yourself and express what’s on your heart, you can’t harbor resentment because things didn’t go your way.
Perhaps you got burned from your mate’s old loves. After you’ve extinguished what you thought was an exclusive relationship take a chill pill and give yourself time to regroup.
Trying to nurse a minor sprain after a big reality check gave you a bad case of whiplash? Everything was going a-okay until that love informed you it’s simply not the right time for things to be taken to the next level. Face it, sometimes men and women just aren’t on the same page.
Now don’t go getting addicted to all those painkillers. Instead, pull out the good ‘ole ACE bandage to ease the strain and relieve some pressure from the relationship. Just because you may think it’s the right time for you, doesn’t mean it’s the right time for the other person. One thing’s for sure, when faced with this injury you can’t assume he/she is not the one for you.
We all get knocked down and need some tender love and care (TLC) from time to time, but it’s the lessons we learn along the way and how we get back up that make a world of difference.
Yep, sometimes love stinks and hurts like a mother, too, but ultimately the sure cure here is time. You will eventually get better, however they’re some things you can do in the meantime to speed up the healing process.
First, you can mend your broken heart by stitching it up with common threads of family and friends. Start to feel what it’s like to be loved again from the people who matter most.
Next, tell them where it hurts. Talk it out -- and then keep on talking and talking and talking. Eventually you'll get to a point where you'll be tired of hearing it and find yourself being the first to change the subject.
Wean off the slow songs. Make a new play list on that iPod that's more upbeat and has nothing to do with relationships. Every tragic love song written, especially country, doesn't always pertain to you. So stop continuing to pour salt into your wounds by trying to relate to them.
I believe laughter is truly the best medicine. Go to bed in a good mood! Make it a habit to watch something funny before you call it a night (romantic comedies don't count! they'll just stir up those emotions again). One of my personal preferences? “Family Guy,” it's a no brainer and the jokes never seem to get old. Trust me, you'll sleep like a baby. Watch two and smile in the morning.
Finally, if the pain is too much to bear, walk it off, kid. Get away for a little bit. If possible, take a vacation and do some soul searching. You'll realize that this is all part of love’s growing pains and you just haven't met the right one yet. God bless the broken roads.
Take care and get well soon!
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